Finding the right Doula

There is no one way to choose a doula; selecting the right person to act as a doula for you is a personal journey and priorities will be different for everyone. It is almost always a good idea to meet a few doulas before deciding on the right one for you.

It is essential to consider your situation as it is:  unique and worth protecting. If you would like a  doula who has a particular skill set or experience because of specific needs, then it’s worth asking questions that make sure you get the right person.

Meeting in person is an excellent idea if you can. Ideally, the chemistry will be right, and the fit will be natural. Compatible personalities and feeling comfortable with a person go a long way in paving the way for a positive experience.

Things to consider and suggested angles for questioning


  • Sometimes natural ease will be foundational in building trust, sometimes specific training or experience will matter more—often its a balance between the two.
  • Cultural affinity may be vital for you.
  • Choosing someone who has empathy for marginalised experiences may be a critical factor in making your choice, if this is something that affects you.
  • Do you feel like you can be yourself with this person?
  • Is communication straightforward and clear?
  • Do you feel comfortable with the level of experience the doula has?
  • More time being a doula doesn’t always matter when it’s the right fit, and everyone has to start somewhere, but enquiring could open the door to learning more about each other.
  • Budget – let us face it; this can help with deciding. Is the doula within your price range? Some doulas offer payment plans or are flexible too.
  • What terms are they offering, what exactly is going to be part of the contract?  Think about on-call times and the number of visits, both pre-birth and postnatally. Do they fit with what you want and need?
  • If you have a partner involved, are they also comfortable with them?
  • Could you all make a good working team?
  • Do they offer postnatal support or feeding support? If this is important to you, check early on if it’s something they offer.

Your journey is unique – find the doula who can support you.


We do not vet our doulas – this is a simple directory to make it easier for you to find the right doula for your needs based on location and skills. We do not take responsibility for any doula listed on this site.  Please do your due diligence when contacting Doulas and ask for credentials and qualifications during your interview. We trust your ability to make decisions for yourself.